Those of us in the publishing industry (and those of us who just live life every day) have to deal with rejection. Yes, my writer friends, agents and editors face rejection just as regularly as you do. (See my previous post “Editors Are People Too.”) So I thought it would be good to talk about the elephant in the room and deal with it head on. Many times we overcome the fear of rejection and walk right in with our ideas, but what we don’t get rid of is the residue of rejection on the way out—the bitterness or low self-worth that is left over from the rejection.
If you don’t handle rejection properly, your filter can get clogged. Before you know it, you become jaded, cynical, frighteningly sarcastic (which can be a symptom of anger and passive aggression), fearful, apathetic, and even desperate toward the next opportunity presenting itself. This is when you’ve turned the residue of rejection into self-sabotage.
So here are ten ways I think you can completely filter out the negative residue of rejection to find yourself coming out on top.